It can be difficult watching people experience loss of any kind...there are many things that can be said, but honestly these words will only fill the air with noise.
Death is an experience we all must face at some stage...an Irish heritage gives a person certain advantages, being dragged as a child from one wake to another to offer your respects exposes you to a certain resilience...an ability to shield oneself from the heartache suffered by so many.
On a personal level, it doesn't get easier, it never should...you learn to navigate around it, put it in a particular place to deal with at the right time, that time is rarely right !
Each of us have our own coping mechanisms...our individuality shines at this point.
I can't tell you its this or that, I am at a loss as to the why's and wherefores....I just know what I know.
Only by talking when you feel you want to will it ease...slightly.
It can be infuriating attempting to process the events that occur, some will tell you its gods plan....others will fill your head with notions you may find odd and confusing...but this is a time for you to gather information, mainly about yourself and how you learn about life, death and everything in between....its a long road !
There is only one way forward, your way, no two situations are every the same.
Until I get there, wherever that may be I won't be able to give you more than that..I may be disappointed...I may find there is nothing beyond what we knew....but one thing I am sure of, we must stand together during these times in respectful silence giving each other the space and time to find our way.
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